Ruth Stapleton of Pinehurst, NC passed away at First Health Moore Regional Hospital in the early morning hours of December 26, 2021.  Born in Jersey City, NJ on December 5, 1928, she was adopted by Henry P. and Florence M.J. Schoenberner of Brooklyn, NY.  

In May of 1948 she married her late husband, Robert J. “Bob” Stapleton. They made their first home in Brooklyn where five of their children were born.  In the fall of 1959 they moved to Manhasset, Long Island, and had the last of their six children, all of whom survive her: Kathleen Lavery (James), Stephen Stapleton (Joan), Thomas Stapleton (Judi), Ruthellen Kosloff (James Labartino), Mark Stapleton (Eileen) and Timothy Stapleton (Cindy).  

She is also survived by thirteen grandchildren – Ellen, Colleen, Timothy, John, Kristen, Kerri, Laurina, Christina, Erica, Maggie, Haley, Paul, and Katelyn, whom she loved dearly, as well as eight great-grandchildren – Kiera, Sasha, Jack, Charlotte, Mia, Riley, Stella, and Savannah, all of whom gave her great joy.  

Also surviving Ruth is her sister, Virginia “Cookie” Shutter, who came into her life just three years ago through an Ancestry DNA match.  Due to the COVID outbreak they were only able to have two in-person visits together; in the fall of 2018 when Cookie traveled from her home in Delaware for their first meeting, and again in December of 2018 when she and son David and family came to Pinehurst for Ruth’s 90th birthday celebration. We all feel blessed that they were able to find one another.


Ruth was a loyal member of the Catholic church, which held a place of comfort for her. For many years she was part of the woman’s volunteer guild at St. Francis Hospital and Heart Center in Pt. Washington, NY. She also enjoyed sewing and crafting, whether it be Christmas dresses for her granddaughters when they were small, or items to sell for charity at the guild bazaars.   

She had a very kind heart, and never met a stranger.  She made many lifelong friends whom she loved fiercely until the end. Ruth enjoyed the simple pleasures, such as sitting at her kitchen table with a cup of coffee and talking to friends, or gathering her family for holidays and dinners. She never met a lobster she didn’t like! She was a great listener, and was a positive person who was accepting and non-judgmental.  She touched the lives of many people, who will always hold a special place for her in their hearts.   


Ruth was a devoted wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother. She enjoyed traveling with her husband, Bob, to places like Alaska, Colorado, Florida, and the Caribbean; she was always fond of a good beach! Her family finds comfort in knowing that she has been reunited with Bob after 12 years apart.

Due to COVID, graveside services will be held on Long Island at a later date. She will be buried alongside Bob at St. Charles Cemetery.


Arrangements are being taken care of by Powell Funeral Home.

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  1. Fran Nolan Randel (and her late husband Ray Randel), along with Ray’s daughter Maryl Randel and her husband Chris Gilbert, offer sincere sympathies. Ray spoke often and fondly of Ruth. She was a good friend to Ray’s mother Patricia. We wish you well. Know that you are in our thoughts.

  2. While I didn’t know Mrs. Stapleton very well, I do know that she was a gentle and loving woman. She was deeply, deeply loved by her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. She was kind and gracious, and very nurturing. She embodied “motherhood” in every fiber of her being. I pray for her soul as she reunites with her husband, and for her family as they grieve the loss of this incredibly special woman.

  3. My dear Mrs. Stapleton,
    I will forever remember you as welcoming with the warmest heart and smile. I would show up at your house unannounced having walked from Dover Road to watch the Yankee game with Ruthellen. It was always nice to see your smiling face when I walked in the door. You were so loved by your family and everyone who knew you. You left a beautiful legacy behind and must be very proud. Godspeed you Mrs. Stapleton. Heaven received yet another angel.♥️

  4. I met Mrs. Stapleton through my very dear friend Ellen Kosloff. She was a warm and loving person who embraced me as a “third daughter” and she became a “second mother” to me. I enjoyed the times I spent with her and Ellen. I will always remember her sweet smile and laughter. Rest in peach Mrs. R.

  5. I don’t even know where to start. From the first time seeing Ms. Ruth, resembling my grandmother beyond imagination, to being in front of me live, I was taken away! I’m more sorry then words can explain that mom and Ms. Ruth never got to know each other, as true sisters could ever imagine in such a lonely world that we live! It’s so very sad that two people so alone in life after loved ones have gone before us, could never truly find one another, to help each other through the voids they lived. I pray for you Ms. Ruth, I hope you find internal life ever after, more importantly you get to meet my mom, and find eternal love and happiness to fill both your voids in life! May God bless your soul for eternal happiness!

  6. Ms. Ruth…. you crushed my heart and soul, resembling my grandmother of so many years ago at our first meeting! Words could never explain the feeling, as no one in my shoes could ever understand! I’m more sorry that you and Mom never got to understand and no eachother as sisters, as i think it would of meant the world to both of you!
    I pray on this day, that you both get to enjoy one another in the majestic heaven we’ve grown to cherish and love, and truly live the lives of Sisterhood!

    • David- My daughter, Kerri and I were right there next to you in Mom’s kitchen when you first laid eyes on her. Your reaction was visceral and that energy translated to us both instantly. Brought tears to our eyes and will always remain one of the most memorable experiences of our lives. At the very least, I knew then that Ancestory got this connection right! I agree, Next to Dad, meeting her biological mother will be so important to her. Cookie will be welcomed with that many more opened arms. A gift we here can wait for😘. Meeting you and your family- though not soon enough is a blessing to us all.

  7. My aunt Ruth was a very loving and kind
    Woman. And my godmother, I would think of often my mom Pat would always let me know how she was doing when we will spoke. I Will miss here ❤️😇

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